how to network as an introvert

I don’t know about you but when I was younger, I often was asked with a negative tone, “Why are you so quiet?”

I hated it. I was screaming from the inside, “Just let me be!”

But why was I quiet? I was afraid to interrupt, not knowing when it was my turn to speak. I was worried people wouldn’t like what came out of my mouth. I was afraid of conflict. I also wanted to observe those around me first before I opened up.

I’m happy to say that as I’ve grown older, I’ve gotten better at conversing with new people I’ve never met before.

What was originally an insecurity has turned into a superpower. I don’t enjoy the small talk and would much rather dive into thought-provoking conversations or even a silly banter. That’s where I thrive.

So how does one network as an introvert?

If you are shy like me, where interacting with new people is difficult, first don’t be hard on yourself and know that you do not have to be the loudest in the room to be successful or to make a lasting impression on another.

If you’re planning to attend a big mixer, set a goal on how many you will meet. Literally go in with a number and start small. Once you’ve met that goal - even if just one person - you’ve conquered your goal and can leave the event.

Next event, add +1, so on and so forth. And don’t forget to follow up with these connections within ideally 48 hours. If you’re like me, sending an email is much easier anyhow! Share with them what stuck out to you during your conversation. Welcome them to a coffee meet. Learn about each other. Discover ways you can support one another. You may even thrive 1:1 than finding your space in a packed mixer.

Another tactic to working the room is by doing it with a friend.

Don’t yet have a friend in business? Start with the first step of meeting people 1:1 and ask them to join you at an upcoming event. Isn’t it so much easier to root on your friend? Then they can do the same for you.

Whatever you do, don’t ever see introversion as a flaw. Find the people that make you feel comfortable, genuinely want to see you win and return the favor. Even one person can change your life and you can change theirs by being the smart, thoughtful, kind person that you are.